CREATE YOUR OWN SECOND CHANCES
You cannot get to a future position until you define your current situation.
Define where you are and what you have, without prejudice, and you will be ready to fulfil your purpose in life.
The only way to define your current reality is to erase the past completely, and disregard the pull of emotions in your mind. This step can seem more difficult than it actually is. Every decision you make during the day is influenced by you past experiences and your emotions. Usually, this is a good thing because it keeps you from repeating the same mistakes.
In order to define where you are right now, you must forget the past and treat your emotions as a disease. Any feelings of fear, anger, sadness, or guilt will prevent you from objectively measuring your current situation.
Once your mind is completely clear and in the present, imagine you were dropped from the sky into your life as it currently stands right now. How would a stranger describe your life right now with no knowledge of your emotions and desires? Carefully measure your assets and liabilities, your strengths and weaknesses, as well as those of your connections.
Have a go at this exercise from both a personal and professional point of view.
Next, keep your emotions turned off but let your past drift into play.
What have you accomplished?
What have you failed to accomplish?
Ignore excuses that come into your head. Ignore your emotions and any attempts that your mind makes to justify what you are in the process of accomplishing. Refuse to evade reality by pretending things are one way when they are really another. Only then will you be able to see where you stand and how far you are from achieving your goal. Take careful notice of your victories and your defeats. Are there any patterns?
What have you been particularly successful at? DO your failures have anything in common?
Now that you know where you stand, you must embrace it and realize that only you are responsible for both the good and bad in your life. It is your own bad strategies that are to blame for your failures. This mind-set will free you from excuses and open your mind to all the possibilities that are existing in your life.
Instead of getting defensive about past mistakes and failures, learn from them and search out new and exciting opportunities to face and similar challenges to overcome. Once you do this, you will start creating your own second chances.
You must ruthlessly evaluate where you are now, it is the only way to get to where you want to go.
The key here factor here is that your biggest obstacle in life is always yourself and not your external factors.
You must stop trying to change external factors and focus on changing yourself.
You have to take responsibility for the person that you are right now, in this moment and that includes everything that you have or have not accomplished in your life.
Taking responsibility in this way will help you consolidate your current position in life with complete confidence and integrity.
Once you know exactly where and who you are, you can strategically determine where you want to go and who you want to be.
Don't ask, act!
Phil