MOTIVATION: Is it affecting more than you think?

Hi everybody!

Since I launched the transform90 program, I have met some amazing people.

I’m sure by now you have seen me pop up on Facebook and inviting you to apply for one of the free transformation sessions that I have offered.

Through these applications, it really gives me an understanding about what the applicant wants from the session and how I can help them.

The whole point of these sessions is to empower you with a few tools, confidence and motivation, to help you realise that you can achieve the goals that you have set for yourself. The sessions are designed to help you understand a bit more about your eating patterns, activity patterns and general lifestyle habits, so that you can understand a bit more about how you can make certain changes to your life and enjoy exercising again.

There is no catch and there are options to get involved in the 12 week transform90 program, but this will not be hard sold in anyway to you. Again, the whole transformation session is about you and changing your life.

Anyway! Through the application I receive, I can get a real understanding about why this person has applied. By the way they talk about their goals, why they haven’t achieved them in the past and how important on a scale of 1-10 it is to them. Everybody should be putting a 10!

The big questions on the application are why haven’t you seen results in the past and what are the biggest challenges you face in getting there.

9 times out of 10 it will be down to motivation!

Motivation is so important in achieving any kind of goal in life. Without having a purpose behind your goal, your motivation will dip very quickly and you’ll think ‘what’s the point’.

Ring any bells?

First of all I want you to have a think about a goal that you are currently working towards, or are thinking about getting started.

Got one?

Good!

Now I want you to ask yourself 3 questions:

Why?

Why?

Why?

Think of your goal as an onion. When you first think about your goal, and lets use dropping a coupe of dress sizes as an example, the answer to the first question will simply be: Because I want to lose 2 dress sizes.

Ask yourself why again. This time it will make you think a bit deeper and you’ll start peeling back the layers. The second answer might be: Because I want to fit into a size 12.

Now, ask yourself why you want to fit into a size 12, an example answer might be: Because I have a wedding or a party to go to and I want to feel happy and confident in my new size 12 outfit.

Then ask yourself: How would you feel if you achieved that goal and felt the best you’ve ever felt?

As we start to peel back the layers on the ‘onion’, we discover more reasons why we want to achieve certain things, thus giving your goal a purpose. You’re doing it for you, your happiness, your confidence, to feel the best you’ve ever felt.

Right?

Practice that series of questions on yourself, and ask yourself WHY as many times as it takes until you peel the layers back to that purpose.

Now, coming back to the motivation side of things. We have just taken the first step into getting some of that drive back, but here is the big question.

Is your lack of motivation affecting other areas of your life?

This is a question I ask people in their transformation sessions.

Most of the time it will just affect the exercise part of a persons life.

Some times it affects more.

Does your lack of motivation affect your social life? Do you feel confident enough to go out and socialise? Do you feel lethargic and tired and not really feeling up for it this time?

I have spoken to people who have lost a lot of friends and distanced themselves away from family also where they just don’t feel like doing anything. Lack of motivation and thinking what’s the point is a common theme. Also, if you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin and not really in a place where you’re feeling confident, you might not want to be seen by people, therefor you might avoid social events or gatherings.

Lack of motivation can also affect areas like your sex life. You might have a long day at work and feel tired and not really feel up for any intimacy with your partner. Also, if you aren’t feeling confident with your body where you lack the motivation to drop those dress sizes, you might feel that your partner is un-attracted to you, therefor avoiding intimate interaction. This may just happen on just the odd occasion but can then snowball into more than one occasion. This can put a huge strain on any relationship and can cause more stress and low moods which are difficult to shake off.

It can also affect your work. Maybe you don’t have the motivation to push yourself harder to earn more money, go for a promotion or venture out into a job that you’ll enjoy. Maybe there’s an opportunity to progress in your profession but the lack of motivation and confidence is making you doubt yourself and before you know it, the opportunity has passed you by?

These are huge areas of a persons life that can be affected by a lack of motivation.

Imagine dropping those dress sizes, feeling good about yourself, having the motivation to go out and see people without feeling low in confidence, having a great relationship with your partner because you’re not feeling unattractive or moving forward with your professional life and getting that promotion or job that you never before had the courage to go for. Resulting in having more money to enjoy life. All because you feel good about YOU!

Create a personal slogan for yourself, you cannot fulfil your purpose in life without connecting your personal identity to it.

A personal slogan will help fully develop the bond between your purpose and your identity,

Find something that you really want to do, no matter how unachievable you think it is.

Life is there to be enjoyed, and having a lack of motivation can hold you back so much, you just need to know how to break out of it and empower yourself with the tools to do so.

That is what my transformation sessions are all about.

There is nothing better than saying what you’re going to do and then going out and doing it!

If you have given this a read and feel you’d like to try one of the transformation sessions, please do not hesitate to get in contact and we will get you on back on to the right path.

Phil